Getting married offers a plethora of opportunities to avoid writing while still exercising your creative juices.
First there’s the proposal which offers a range of interesting possibilities. For example, I considered proposing through the medium of Karaoke but in the end settled for a post argument proposal which seemed to work well.
Then, once the date is settled there is the choice of the venue which needn’t be lavish. Some of the best receptions I have been in the upstairs rooms of pubs.
With the date and venue sorted you can then choose the invitations and get them printed. We ended up with invitations printed on recycled paper and containing seeds so that the guests could plant the invitations in pots of soil that we gave them on the wedding day.
Then decisions have to be made about food, wine, beer, spirits, soft drinks, decorations, the cake, photography, what you are going to wear, how your hair is going to look, music and the ceremony itself.
We decided to write our own ceremony and the vows and we based it on some example humanist ceremonies. The problem was that, getting married in Brazil, we had to translate the whole thing into Portuguese too.
Nearer the date we had to make sure all the guests were actually coming and knew how to get there. The decorator, caterer and dj had to go and check out the venue so we had to be there too.
There’s speech writing, practising the first dance which in our case meant learning a song on the ukulele, suggesting a playlist for the dj. Buying champagne and glasses for the hotel.
Then, on the day, we had to do the official paperwork at the register office, check everything at the venue was ok, go to the hairdresser, back to the venue to meet the dj, check into the hotel, get changed, but extra ice and toilet paper, have the actual ceremony, make the speech, cut the cake, sing the song, eat, drink, thank the guests. Help pack up everything at the venue and eventually get to the hotel by 2 or 3am.
Then there’s the honeymoon the thank you for gifts, help etc.
So, lots and lots of excellent opportunities to avoid writing.